The day has finally arrived - your kids have packed up their belongings and headed off to college. While this is an exciting time for them, it can leave many parents, single or not,
feeling a range of emotions, including sadness and even depression. The empty nest syndrome is a genuine phenomenon that can be difficult to navigate. Here are a few tips on how to cope with depression after your kids leave for college:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
It's important to allow yourself to feel sad and to acknowledge that it is normal to grieve this major life change. Don't try to suppress your emotions - instead, talk to a trusted friend or therapist about what you're going through.
2. Stay Connected
Even though your kids have left for college, it's important to stay connected with them. Schedule regular phone or video calls, send care packages, and plan visits to see them on campus. Knowing that you still have a strong relationship with your children can help alleviate feelings of loneliness.
3. Focus on Yourself
Now that your children are off to college, you can focus on yourself and your needs. Take up a new hobby, join a club or group, or start a new exercise routine. Investing time in yourself can help boost your mood and give you a sense of purpose.
4. Seek Support
Don't be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Joining a support group for parents experiencing the empty nest syndrome can also be helpful, as you can connect with others going through a similar experience.
5. Set Goals
Setting goals and creating a new routine can help you adjust to life after your kids leave for college. List things you've always wanted to do but never had the time for. Whether traveling, learning a new skill, or volunteering, having goals to work towards can provide a sense of direction and purpose.
6. Practice Self-Care
Taking care of yourself physically and emotionally is crucial during this time. Ensure you get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, and engage in activities that bring you joy. Don't hesitate to pamper yourself with a spa day, a hike in nature, or a good book - self-care is essential for maintaining your mental health.
Remember, it's normal to feel sad and even experience depression when your kids leave for college. Give yourself time to adjust to this new chapter in your life, and don't hesitate to reach out for help if you need it. With time and self-care, you can navigate through this transition period and become stronger on the other side.
Feeling lost is normal from what I hear, and in my case, when twins left, two at once, it has been more difficult than I imagined. I miss them very much; however, I am proud of them and know they are happy and thriving.
My heart is with you if you are going through this part of life.
Erin
How are you coping?
What did you do after your kids left for college?
What new activities did you get into?
And if you have kids still in the nest here is how to help:
Focusing on Kids at Home
While it's natural to feel the impact of your children leaving for college, it's essential to also focus on your kids who are still at home. Here are a few strategies to help maintain a positive relationship and support their needs:
1. Quality Time
Spend quality time with your kids who are still at home. Plan activities, outings, or family dinners to stay connected and strengthen your relationship with them.
2. Open Communication
Encourage open and honest communication with your kids at home. Let them know you can talk and listen to their thoughts and feelings about their siblings leaving for college.
3. Support Their Goals
Take an interest in your kids' activities and goals. Whether they are involved in sports, clubs, or academics, please show your support and encouragement for their endeavors.
4. Create New Memories
Use this time to create new memories and experiences with your kids at home. This can include taking family trips, starting a new tradition, or simply spending time together doing activities they enjoy.
By balancing the coping strategies for yourself and focusing on the kids still at home, you can navigate this transition period with greater resilience and understanding. With time and support, you can embrace this new chapter in your life and continue to nurture meaningful connections with your children, both near and far.