There’s nothing quite like the gut punch of getting a text that says, “I’m not ready for anything right now,” only to see that same person swiping away on Tinder later. It’s like being told, “It’s not you, it’s me,” while they’re actively browsing for someone new. And honestly? That sucks.
The Classic Mixed-Signal Move
When someone says they’re not ready for a relationship, we usually take it at face value. We assume they need time, space, and healing—whatever the case. We respect that. But then, a wild dating profile appears. Suddenly, their need for “time” feels like a convenient excuse rather than an honest reflection of where they’re at.
Let’s be honest: why are you in the dating pool if you're not ready?
Why are you entertaining new connections while telling me, “It’s just not the right time”? It feels like a cruel joke—like someone pressing pause on you while hitting play with everyone else.
The Harsh Reality: You Weren’t the One He Wasn’t Ready For
This part stings, but sometimes, “I’m not ready” means “I’m not ready for you.” And that’s a hard pill to swallow. Because if they were genuinely uninterested in dating, they wouldn’t be on an app built specifically for that. Instead, they’re keeping their options open, waiting for something that feels right to them—while leaving you in emotional limbo.
That’s not fair. That’s not kind. And that’s not the kind of energy you need in your life.
So What Do You Do?
First, recognize that this says more about them than you. Someone who genuinely respects you wouldn’t feed you a line while playing the field. They wouldn’t string you with half-truths while swiping for their next distraction.
Second, take this as the clarity you need. Why should you waste another second waiting around if they're looking elsewhere? Be with someone who wants to be with you, not someone who leaves you questioning your worth.
And finally, remember: you don’t have to settle for mixed signals. The right person won’t make you feel like an option—they’ll make you a priority.
So, to the guy who isn’t “ready” but somehow manages to be Tinder-ready—best of luck. But I won’t be waiting.
Bye-Bye!