The "Let Me" Mindset: Taking Ownership After Letting Go

We wrote about the Let Them Theory last week regarding life and divorce—the idea that when someone shows you who they are or what they want (or don’t want), you let them. Let them go. Let them stay. Let them choose. Let them walk away. Let them reveal themselves. But after you let them, what’s next?

Let me.

The next step in healing and thriving is reclaiming your power with two simple but profound words: Let me. Let me choose myself, let me feel this fully, let me move forward, and let me build the life I deserve.

Too often, in the aftermath of heartbreak, divorce, or disappointment, we get stuck in the reaction phase. We obsess over what they did, said, and chose. But once we’ve let them be who they are, we can shift the focus back to ourselves—where it belongs.

This isn’t selfish. This is survival. More than that, it’s transformation.

Let me heal. You don’t need permission to grieve or to take your time. Your timeline and emotions are valid. Let yourself cry, laugh, scream, binge-watch terrible TV, or journal your heart out. Whatever healing looks like for you, let you do it.

Let me grow. You are not the same person you were before the divorce—or even during it. That’s a good thing. Let yourself evolve. Take the class. Book the solo trip. Join the gym.

Find a therapist. Try something new. Your growth is your responsibility and your opportunity.

Let me love myself better. After spending so long putting energy into someone else or a version of love that didn’t love you back the right way, it’s time to redirect that love inward. What makes you feel alive, at peace, worthy, and confident? Let yourself go there. Give yourself what you’ve been waiting for others to give you.

Let me decide what’s next. This is your plot twist moment. It's not the end—just the beginning of a new chapter. And you’re the author. Let yourself reimagine what life can look like. It may not be what you once planned, but it can be even better.

Here’s your reminder, Divorcee: You let them walk. Now, let you rise.

The let-me mindset is where the power returns. So go ahead—let them, but more importantly, allow yourself.

How will you implement this in your life? Remember, the most important person is you; before you take care of others, you let yourself heal.

xoxo

Erin

Learn more about Mel Robbins and her inspiration here: https://www.melrobbins.com/