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At Divorcee Dish Getaways, we believe that the end of one chapter is just the beginning of a brand-new adventure. Divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s an opportunity to rediscover yourself, embrace new experiences, and write the story of you. Whether you’re seeking adrenaline-fueled escapades, soulful reflection, or a well-deserved escape, we are here to celebrate this season of life with you. Born from the Divorce Dish community, we saw firsthand that divorce can feel isolating, but it doesn’t have to be. What if you could step away from the noise, the questions, and the expectations? What if you could embark on an adventure tailored to your dreams, reconnect with joy, and meet others who understand the journey? That’s the heart behind Divorcee Dish Getaways: giving you the space to be seen, celebrated, and free to explore life your way. Our getaways are designed with YOU in mind—whether sipping wine on a sun-drenched balcony, hiking a quiet mountain trail, or laughing until your cheeks hurt with newfound friends. With a curated mix of solo retreats, group adventures, and luxury escapes, there’s something for every divorcee ready to reclaim their joy, confidence, and zest for life. Because here’s the truth: you are not broken, you are not alone, and you deserve to celebrate yourself. At Divorcee Dish Getaways, we’re more than travel planners—your adventure partners, your biggest cheerleaders, and your reminder that the best is yet to come. It’s your time. Your adventure. Your fresh start. Let’s make it unforgettable.

A worldwide theory has been gaining traction, particularly among women who value their peace over proving a point. It’s known as the “Let Them” Theory , and if you’ve experienced a divorce (or, let’s be honest, even a messy breakup), this might just become your new mantra. Book by Mel & Sawyer Robbins I have been practicing controlling the controllables and letting the rest go. Many people judge you before, during, and after divorce. Many have opinions; maybe I am emotional, have an open heart, and crave love. I want someone to love me for who I am, and if they can’t, let them, then let me.   The Let Them Theory is simple: If they want to leave, let them. If they choose to speak poorly of you, let them. If they decide to ignore you, exclude you, misunderstand your intentions, or misrepresent your story, let them. This isn't about giving up. It’s about letting go. Divorce taught me to stop chasing closure. However, I still want it, but I need to let them go. It’s so hard, and I recently messed up by trying not to let them go. After my divorce and subsequent dating experiences, I realized how much time I had spent managing  other people’s perceptions—explaining myself, defending my choices, and correcting the narrative.   So, exhausting, right? The Let Them Theory reminded me that peace doesn’t come from being understood by everyone; instead, it arises from being true to yourself . If your ex is dating someone new and thriving, let them. If you feel that ride-or-die friends gradually fade away, let them. If others criticize your healing journey, parenting style, or new dating life, just let them be . Their opinions don’t pay your bills. They don’t tuck your kids in at night. And they certainly don’t get to dictate how you heal. Control Is a Myth; Peace Is a Choice Divorce fractures your world and shatters your heart into a million pieces. Amidst the chaos, we strive to regain control. But here’s the truth: control is a comforting illusion. The harder you try to manage how others act, think, or feel, the more exhausted you become. The Let Them Theory is your permission slip to stop trying. Allow them to be who they are. Let them show their true selves. Let them go if that’s what they intend to do anyway. While they do whatever they intend to do, you concentrate on yourself . Let Them… So, You Can Be Free The Let Them Theory isn’t about bitterness or indifference. It’s about choosing yourself : your joy, your healing, your clarity, and your growth. It’s about realizing that what people do reflects them —not you . So let them walk away if they need to. Let them underestimate you. Let them believe whatever helps them feel better. While they’re being themselves , you’re here being the version of you  that this next chapter deserves—calm, unbothered, and completely free. What about you?  Have you adopted the Let Them Theory in your post-divorce life? Please share your thoughts in the comments or slide them into my DMs. Let’s discuss reclaiming peace on our terms. 💬 If you haven't heard of this theory, I encourage you to explore https://www.melrobbins.com/ —you can buy the book there. I listened to it on #audible, and much of what Robbins discussed resonated with my current experiences...so let them. #DivorceeDish #LetThemTheory #HealingAfterDivorce #PeaceOverDrama #AlmostUnbotheredAndThriving #youdeservelove #lovewillcome

We’ve all been there—swept up in the intoxicating rush of attraction, heart racing, hands shaking, mind spinning. The chemistry is undeniable, the passion electric. But is it the real thing, or just a fleeting moment of desire? Love and lust can feel eerily similar in the beginning, making it hard to distinguish between the two. But understanding the difference is crucial, especially if you want something meaningful and lasting. Lust is driven by physical attraction and chemistry. It’s what makes your pulse quicken when you see them, what draws you into late-night conversations that are more flirtatious than deep. Lust is intoxicating—the fireworks, the butterflies, the thrill of the chase. But here’s the thing: lust is surface-level. It thrives on mystery, physical touch, and fantasy rather than emotional depth. Signs It’s Lust, Not Love: You're drawn to their physical appearance more than their personality. The connection feels primarily sexual or flirtatious. Conversations stay light—deep topics are avoided. You focus on the present excitement, not the future. When they're not around, you don’t miss them meaningfully. Lust isn’t bad—it’s natural and can be a great foundation for love. But if it never deepens beyond the physical, it’s likely not meant to last. Love is what happens when the high of attraction settles into something steady, comforting, and honest. It’s when you feel safe being vulnerable when you’re just as attracted to their mind as you are to their body. Love is effort—choosing the person even when the initial spark isn’t as intense when life gets messy, and when challenges arise. Signs It’s Love, Not Just Lust: You care deeply about their happiness, even outside of your relationship. You can be your true, unfiltered self around them. Your conversations go beyond surface level and include dreams, fears, and values. You see a future together and are willing to work through challenges. You miss them for who they are, not just their presence. Love requires patience, trust, and emotional intimacy. It’s not just about wanting someone—it’s about choosing  them, day after day. Can it be both? Absolutely! The best relationships balance love and lust. Passion keeps things exciting, while emotional connection provides stability. The key is recognizing where your relationship currently stands and whether it has the potential to grow into something more profound. So, Ask Yourself: If the passion faded, would I still want to be with this person? Do I feel safe, valued, and emotionally connected? Are we building something or just enjoying the moment? Love and lust can overlap, but only one will stand the test of time. The challenge is knowing which one you’re feeling—and making sure it aligns with what you truly want. What do you think—have you ever mistaken lust for love? Or both? Let's Dish!

Divorce comes with many emotions—the good, the bad, and the ugly, as they say. As your children get older, they may rediscover feelings that were suppressed for some time, which I recently experienced along with a few of my divorcee friends.  While younger kids often struggle with the basic concept of separation, teenagers and adult children process divorce differently—sometimes with greater awareness but also with deeper emotional challenges. Older children might understand more, but that doesn’t always mean they accept it easily. They may feel resentment, sadness, or relief depending on the situation. So, how can parents support older children in processing and healthily coping with divorce? Acknowledge Their Feelings—Without Defensiveness: This can be a tough pill to swallow; although you never want to be defensive with your children, it’s all too easy to do so, especially when you’re feeling blamed. Older children, particularly teens, and young adults are likely to experience strong emotions regarding divorce. They might express feelings of anger and disappointment or even take sides. It’s essential for parents to allow space for these emotions without becoming defensive. Instead of justifying the divorce or dismissing it, practice active listening: “I hear that you’re upset, and that’s okay.” “I know this is hard for you, and I’m here if you ever want to talk.” “I understand you have questions, and I’ll do my best to answer them.” It’s essential to give each child space to process their feelings without needing to protect their emotions and to help them feel validated. Be completely transparent and keep it age-appropriate: Older kids may need more information about why the divorce happened. While they don’t need the entire unfiltered story, honesty (without oversharing) helps them feel respected. For example: Instead of “Your dad/mom ruined everything,”  say, “We had differences we couldn’t work through, and this was the best decision for everyone.”   Instead of “I don’t know how I’ll manage without your other parent,”  say, “This is a big change, and I’m adjusting too, but we’re all going to be okay.” Finding a balance between honesty and discretion avoids imposing unnecessary emotional burdens on them. Be sure they know they do not have to take sides: Older children may experience pressure—from within or outside—to take sides. They might be concerned about hurting one parent’s feelings or feel guilty about maintaining a relationship with both. Emphasize that they do not have to choose. Encourage them to build connections with both parents and remind them that your love for them is unconditional. Be Prepared for Delayed Reactions While younger children may react immediately to divorce, older kids—especially young adults—might need more time to process it; you might be surprised by how long this can take, possibly months or years. They may seem fine initially but can struggle later, particularly during significant events like graduations, weddings, or family holidays. Keep the lines of communication open, even months or years after the divorce.  A simple “I know this change is still something we’re all adjusting to. How are you feeling about everything?” can go a long way. Model Healthy Relationships Moving Forward Older kids learn about relationships by observing their parents. When you start new relationships, be mindful of how you introduce them and the messages you convey. Love, respect, and communication remain crucial, even after a marriage. If they express concerns about your dating again, listen to them without dismissing their feelings. Encourage Them to Seek Support Even if they appear mature, older kids can gain from speaking with a counselor, therapist, or trusted mentor. Encourage seeking support and foster open conversations. If they are hesitant about professional help, suggest journaling, joining support groups, or talking to friends who understand. Divorce can be just as challenging for older children as it is for younger ones, but with open communication, validation, and support, they can navigate it healthily. Parents play a crucial role in helping them process emotions, redefine family dynamics, and find stability in the changes ahead. If you’re a parent going through a divorce with older children, take a deep breath. Keep talking, listening, and, most importantly, loving them through it all.   You got this; even if you feel many days, you do not. Breathe and Breathe again!